If we really want to be happy, why do we act like such babies?
We can claim to be proactive in our life by settings goals and going after what we want.But if we’re always whining and complaining all the time, are we really living effectively?
If you don't believe me, count how many times you complain about something or other in one day.Whether it be being stuck in traffic, being bothered by the weather, not enough mustard on your sandwich, or whatever it is, there are endless instances where you can find a reason to complain.
But it's not just outside circumstances that we complain about. We complain about ourselves too.We complain that we don't have enough time, we don’t have enough money（this one is huge because it’s often“true”），that we’re not smart enough, cool enough, or just enough.
I know I've experienced plenty of unpleasantness due to complaining about things I can't control. I never really thought about it much until I found this website about“living in a complain free world.”
Imagine how much happier you would be if you simply stopped complaining?Much of what you complain about is outside of your control anyway. What's the point of brooding about something you have no power to change?Not very intelligent, if you ask me.
Simply becoming conscious of how much you complain is the first step to stopping. When you recognize that you're complaining, stop and take notice of it.Ask yourself if you would rather complain, or be happy.
-claim [kleɪm]v.要求；请求；声称；断言
典型例句
He claimed that he found the money in the forest.
他声称他是在森林中发现这些钱的。
最常用法
lay claim to sth.声称对某事物有权利
claim one's right 要求得到权力
claim for damage 要求赔偿损失
联想记忆
disclaim v.声称没有（某事物）；否认；放弃
-complain [kəmˈpleɪn]v.抱怨；控诉；发牢骚
典型例句
You’re always complaining！你总是发牢骚！
最常用法
complain of sth.抱怨某事
-effectively [ɪˈfektɪvlɪ]adv.有效地；事实上
典型例句
I can solve the problems in working effectively.
我能有效地解决工作中出现的问题。
联想记忆
efficiently adv.高效率地
ineffectively adv.无效地
-count [kaunt]v.数；计数
典型例句
He can’t count yet.他还不会数数。
最常用法
count sth.up 算某物的总数
count down 倒计时
联想记忆
countable adj.可数的
-bother [ˈbɔðə（r）]v.烦扰；使恼怒；使不安
典型例句
I’m sorry to bother you, but could you tell me the way to the station?对不起打扰一下，请问去车站怎么走？
最常用法
bother one’s head about sth.为某事物焦虑或操心
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trouble v.使（某人）忧虑、苦恼、痛苦或不便；打扰
典型例句
The hours of waiting seemed endless.
等待似乎是无止境的。
联想记忆
end v.结束，终止
-instance [ˈɪnstəns]例子；实例；事例
典型例句
I can quote you several instances of her being deliberately rude.
我可以给你举出她故意粗暴待人的几个例子。
最常用法
for instance 例如；比如
联想记忆
example n.例证；例子
-intelligent [ɪnˈtelɪdʒənt]adj.聪明的；有才智的；有头脑的
典型例句
Though very intelligent, she is nevertheless rather modest.
她很聪明，倒也很谦虚。
联想记忆
intelligence n.学习、理解和推理的能力；智力
-conscious [ˈkɔnʃəs]adj.神志清醒的；意识到的；自觉的；有意的
典型例句
I was not conscious of having made a mistake.
我没意识到犯了错误。
最常用法
be conscious of 意识到，知道，察觉
联想记忆
aware v.觉察到、意识到
如果我们想要变得高兴，为什么要像小孩子那样行动呢？
我们可以积极主动地在我们生活中设定目标，然后向着目标进发。但是如果我们整天牢骚满腹，怨天尤人的话，我们还会活得有效率吗？
如果你不相信我，仔细想想你一天要抱怨几次。不管是因为被糟糕的交通困住，被天气所困扰，还是三明治上芥末放得不够多，总之生活中有无数的烦心事可以让我们抱怨。
不仅仅外部的环境让我们抱怨，我们还不断地抱怨我们自己。比如时间不够啊，钱不够花啊，不够聪明不够冷静啊，反正什么看上去都不够好。
很多时候，不愉快都是因为抱怨自己不能控制的事情。我没有仔细地思考过这个问题，直到有一天我发现一个叫“活在没有抱怨的世界中”的网站。
想想吧，如果你停止抱怨的话你会变得多么的快乐。反正那些事情又无力改变，整天想着那些你无力改变的事情又有什么意义呢？如果你来问我，我会说那样很愚蠢。
停止抱怨要做的第一步就是想清楚你在抱怨什么。当你意识到自己在抱怨的时候，停下来，问问自己是要变的快乐还是继续这样抱怨下去。