wear the pants To be in charge in or control of a relationship or family. The phrase is typically applied to a woman, contrasting the fact that pants were historically only worn by men, who were traditionally the decision makers. Often followed by in the family or in the house. 在恋爱中或是家庭中掌权，负责。这句话通常用来形容女性。与此形成鲜明对比的是，历史上作主的都是男性，传统中男性通常是决策者。这个短语后边经常会接in the family或者是in the house。 I think it's pretty obvious who wears the pants in that family . 我认为谁在那个家族里说了算是很明显的。 Actually, in our relationship, we both wear the pants we make decisions together. 事实上，在我们的关系中，我们都是一起当家做决定的。