Gender-studies experts caryl rivers and rosalind barnett on how to reverse the damage .
性别研究专家carylrivers和rosalindbarnett正在研究怎样避免这种伤害。
Caryl : what 's wrong with your brother ? He seems to be in a really bad mood .
卡里尔:你弟弟怎麽了?他似乎心情很差。
Caryl rusbult , a researcher at vrije university in amsterdam who died last january , called it the " michelangelo effect , " referring to the manner in which close partners " sculpt " each other in ways that help each of them attain valued goals .