There is a wholeness about the person who has come to terms with his limitations, who has been brave enough to let go of his unrealistic dreams and not feel like a failure for doing so. There is a wholeness about the man or woman who has learned that he or she is strong enough to go through a tragedy and survive, he or she can lose someone and still feel like a complete person.
Life is not a trap set for us by God so that he can condemn us for failing. Life is not a spelling puzzle, where no matter how many words you have gotten right, you’re disqualified if you make one mistake.Life is more like a baseball season, where even the best team loses one third of its games and even the worst team has its days of brilliance.Our goal is to win more games than we lose.
When we accept that imperfection is part of human, and when we can continue rolling through life and appreciate it, we will have achieved a wholeness that others can only aspire to. That, I believe, is what God asks of us-not“Be perfect”，not“Don't even make a mistake”，but“Be whole.”
-wholeness [həʊlnəs]n.完整性；全体；健全
典型例句
It is in wholeness that joy becomes an ongoing life experience again.
就是在完整性中，欢乐再次变成一个持续的表达。
联想记忆
partial adj.部分的；不完全的
wholly adv.完全地；全部地
-limitation [ˌlɪmɪˈteɪʃn]n.限制；限度；缺点
典型例句
Despite the limitations of the survey, it did suggest some general trends.
尽管调查中有缺陷，但它确实显示了一些基本趋势。
联想记忆
shortcoming n.缺点；短处
-unrealistic [ˌʌnrɪəˈlɪstɪk]adj.不切实际的，不实在的
典型例句
To tell you the truth, your plan is unrealistic.
恕我直言，你的计划是不切实际的。
联想记忆
realistic adj.现实的；现实主义的
impractical adj.不切实际的；不实用的
-tragedy [ˈtrædʒədɪ]n.悲剧；灾难
典型例句
Shakespeare’s Hamlet is a very famous tragedy.
莎士比亚的《哈姆雷特》是一部十分著名的悲剧。
联想记忆
tragic adj.悲惨的；悲痛的；可悲的
comedy n.喜剧
drama n.戏剧
-condemn [kənˈdem]v.谴责；责备
典型例句
We all condemn cruelty to children.
我们一致谴责虐待儿童的行为。
最常用法
condemn sb.for sth.谴责某人所做的某事
联想记忆
blame v.责备；责怪；指责
criticize v.批评某人 挑剔
-disqualify [dɪsˈkwɔlɪfaɪ]v.使……丧失资格
典型例句
Lack of education will disqualify you for most good jobs.
缺乏教育就会使你失去找好工作的资格。
联想记忆
qualify v.使……具备资格
-brilliance [ˈbrɪlɪəns]n.才华；（色彩）鲜明；光辉；辉煌
典型例句
The Chicago Bulls has lost its former brilliance.
芝加哥公牛队失去了往日的辉煌。
联想记忆
brilliant adj.非常明亮的；技艺精湛的；才华横溢的
-imperfection [ˌɪmpəˈfekʃn]n.不完美；不完整；瑕疵
典型例句
My father never tolerated imperfection.
我父亲要求一切事情非尽善尽美不可。
联想记忆
perfect adj.完美的；无瑕的；完整无缺的
flaw n.瑕疵；缺陷
-appreciate [əˈpriːʃɪeɪt]v.理解并欣赏（某事物）；赏识
典型例句
You can’t fully appreciate foreign literature in translation.
看翻译作品很难欣赏到外国文学的精髓。
-.aspire [əˈspaɪə（r）]v.渴望；立志；追求
典型例句
He aspired to become a lawyer.他渴望成为一名律师。
最常用法
aspire after sth.对某事物有雄心或野心
aspire to sth.渴望成就某事物
联想记忆
inspire v.激发；使生灵感
desire v.渴望；渴求
人生的完整性在于知道如何面对缺陷，如何勇敢地摒弃不现实的幻想而又不以此为缺憾；人生的完整性还在于学会勇敢面对人生悲剧而继续活下去，能够在失去亲人后依然表现出完整的个人风范。
人生不是上帝为谴责我们的缺陷而给我们布下的陷阱。人生也不是一场拼字游戏比赛，不管你拼出多少单词，一旦出现了一个错误，你便前功尽弃。人生更像是一个棒球赛季，即使最好的球队也会输掉1/3的比赛，而最差的球队也有春风得意的日子。我们的目标就是多赢球、少输球。
当我们接受不完整性是人类本性的一部分，当我们不断地滚动前行并能欣赏其价值时，我们就会获得其他人仅能渴望的完整人生。我相信这就是上帝对我们的要求：不求“完美”，也不求“不犯错误”，而是求得人生的“完整”。